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发信人: dancingever (Dancing Ever), 信区: Single
标题: 3 s
发信站: 荔园晨风BBS站 (Wed Sep 12 17:09:27 2007), 站内

神秘又有效的泡妞“3秒法则”（zz）

“3秒法则”是指在看到中意的女孩后，要在3秒内采取行动。即使你不能想到任何好方
法，即使你不知道下一步该怎么样，无论你决定做什么，永远在3秒内行动。

即使你还没想好开场白，她就出现在你面前，你至少应该说“嗨”。建议你预先准备好
一些开场白，如“你父母是哪里人，你怎么这么白（或高）？”

如果你在3秒内行动，不管她是刚刚从哪里进门，不管你们是如何相遇，她都会注意这点
。她将会注意到你的果断气概，这才有利于你进行生嗑的下一步。第一印象才是最重要
的。如果你给人的第一印象是自信又自然的男人，她对于你的感觉从一开始就会是积极
正面的，那将减少你被淘汰的机会。而且，一个好的开始有助于你在接下来的步骤中保
持信心。

如果你等候，犹豫，然后才决定接近她，那从一开始你就处于弱势。犹豫会给本来就缺
少自信的你，制造一个想象产生坏结果的机会，让你行动起来更加没信心。依“3秒法则
”，你不需要等候眼神接触，不需要等候到她注意到你，不需要等候到可以表现你自己
的机会。你不应该让一个女人察觉你的犹豫不决。你犹豫愈长，给人印象就愈是没有信
心。同时，犹豫不决会给她感觉你是个胆小无用、惴惴不安的人。

在三秒中，你没有时间去变紧张、忸怩怕难为情、出汗、动摇。而这些正是呆瓜常出现
的症状，他们在女人面前缺乏信心和气概。即使在应用“3秒法则”之后，你仍然开始出
现那些症状，但至少在你开始接触她时，你不是那样的。

呆瓜就会站着或坐着不敢动，想着被拒绝的各种情形，越想越害怕，导致自己变得紧张
焦虑，即使他们最后确实行动起来，往往就是一副忸怩懦怯的神态。犹豫等候也等于给
其他男人创造机会。你等候愈长，其他男人愈有时间和机会去泡走你看中的妞。

“3秒法则”也不是绝对的。当她进入你的环境的时候，你可能还没注意到她，或也许有
障碍让你接触不了她。“3秒法则”是从你已经注意到她而且可以自由接近她的时刻起开
始计算。从你已经注意到她而且可以自由接近她的时刻起，你真的没有时间去想深的想
法，没有时间去揣测：是否她注意到，你没有接近她是因为你手上有要忙的；或是否她
注意到，你在担心你的意图太明显。

有一些环境是不适合应用“3秒法则”的。举例来说，你不要生嗑正在银行存取钱的美女
。又如，在一个满是美女的房间中，你就需要时间扫描一下那几个美女是你实际想要接
近的。显然在3秒中，你不可能接近俩个在房间的不同位置的美女。

(摘自 www.eat2.cn)

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The point of the 3s rule is to propel you to approach women fast enough to k
eep your internal voice from talking you out of it and avoid hesitation. You
do

not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more inse
cure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervou
sness

to your mental state - a personality trait you do not want to portray when a
pproaching women.

Even if you can't think of any way to initiate a conversation with a woman,
whatever you do, don't break the 3s rule! Act in 3 seconds as the default ru
le,

even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener
or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just sa
y

"Hi". If you act in 3 seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just
came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She wil
l see

the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in yo
ur favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you are in a weake
r

situation. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary
bad outcomes and add unneeded insecurity to your approach.

With the 3s rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notic
e you or for an opportunity to present itself. You simply see something you
like

and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following
the 3s rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-

conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of an AFC: lacking confiden
ce, quality, power, or assertiveness, a weakling around women, a pariah to

beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter whi
le talking to the woman after following the 3s rule, you weren't that way wh
en

you initiated contact. The first impression is what counts. If that first im
pression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you
will

be positive from the start, which greatly the minimizes the chance of you tu
rning into a pile of jelly while talking with her. It sets the pace and help
s

keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep up your confid
ence.

The 3s rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when sh
e enters your environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that mi
ght

in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined
ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her an
d are

free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have t
he time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she not
iced

that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restra
ined, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking, so move it!

"When approaching these chicks, I used Mystery's 3 second rule approach (whi
ch I rely on heavily) and tried to pick out something about them to comment
on.

It could be a book, something they are wearing, questions about something th
at they MAY (not necessarily DO) have knowledge on, something we have in com
mon,

whatever."

There is a reason it's a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about a
ny situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation
after

seeing the chick rather than waiting around to think about the "perfect" ope
ner or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most AFCs just stand/sit around, ga
zing

at the HB they want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the appr
oach. While they stand/sit there, the voice in their head goes through every

possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They cause the
mselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do
the

approach, they are walking up to her as a quivering pile of jelly. Waiting a
lso creates time for a cockblock to appear. The longer you wait, the more ti
me

gets created for cockblock scenarios to present themselves.

The rule is not chiseled in stone, though, and some circumstances aren't qui
te 3s material. You can't just walk up to a chick and chat her up while she'
s

depositing a check at a bank teller window, for example. Also, sometimes you
are in a room full of HBs and you need time to scan for ones that you actua
lly

want to approach. You obviously can't approach 2 chicks in 3 seconds who are
on different ends of a room. But you also shouldn't stand around for too lo
ng if

you've seen a chick that you DO want to approach. Just go and do it. If you
can't think of anything, say "Hi." Usually, it's also better to have a defau
lt

opener ready for all situations if you want to give yourself more confidence
and less reason to hesitate. If you're with a wingman, you may also want to
do a

Mr. Smooth type approach. If your target is in a group, you may also want to
brush up on group approach techniques.

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